At this time, it is a truth that many women know well: sex not only has the potential to be tremendously pleasant, but also support or our well -being. But what about the effects of No Have sex? We know less about that: why is it why we are immersing deeply that question today?
For all fantastic stories about how to participate regularly in sex can cortisol levels, improve sleep, reduce pain and improve immunity, occasionally I wonder about a rest in regularity, also known as a dry gesture. “I recently found an article that details what happens to your body when you stop having sex, and encouraged me to look for other expert advice.
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Understand the effects of not having sex
As a woman whose pre -collex -prior education was in Catholic schools, any positive sexual literature, podcasts and beyond have been a lighthouse for me an adult. There were so much that I appreciated for the Catholic school environment, but getting rid of the auction of shame around certain acts, particularly the sexual, has been a valuable personal process: reads help for the idea that the cured sexual pre -guest. He also recognizes that sex should be an important and beneficial part of life.
Keep reading to obtain some of my most notable discoveries, as well as ideas of the health and welfare expert of the residents of our team, the certified midwife Lauren Soulsinski (MSN, CNM), for those who seek to break a dry spell.
Lauren Zielinski, MSN, CNM
Lauren Zielinski is a certified nurse of the Media stop with approximately 11 years of experience in health and birth of women. He studied medicine at the University of Colorado-Denver with an approach to community health and the work of birth centers.
The mental and emotional impact of a dry spell
It is no secret that sex can be a mood reinforcement, but what happens at an emotional level when things slow down or stop?
For many, sex is not just a physical act. It is a form of connection, intimacy or even trust. So, when you stop having sex, it is natural for your emotional state to change so that they are not immersedly obvious. Some people report feeling more irritable, anxious or disconnected from themselves or their partner. Others may notice a fall in self -esteem or a subtle (but real) sense of loneliness, even if they are surrounded by love in other areas of life.
It is important to remember that a dry spell does not mean that something is wrong. It is simply a signal to register: with your body, your emotional needs or how connected it feels with the community. If you feel away, you could ask yourself: What child or touch, intimacy or attention am I missing right now? Sometimes, a friend of a friend, a long bath or dance in his living room can return to his body and brighten his mood.
And for those who are not in relationships, or who are choosing not having sex for any reason, know this: you are complete and emotionally satisfied With or without Sex. Keep prioritizing the ways in which you feel nourished through physical or emotional connection, and making room for your own sense of me to prosper.
Blood pressure and stress levels can increase
Sex provides a regular liberation of endorphins. If that is the event, then the corresponding levels or stress can increase. Fortunately, there are other active ways to achieve similar results. Consider replacing the healthy and cardiac pumping exercise with the sessions between the sheets. Think in motion, breathing and pleasure in other forms. A quick walk after work, a yoga flow that opens the heart or its favorite morning training session can increase the flow of blood offered by many of the same cardiovascular benefits and stress reducers that sex does.
“If you feel really floating, incredibly busy and you are never humorous for sex and why change that,” says Soulsinski, “then it is time to activate your self -care defense fashion.” She advises to drop one or two commitments that are not crucial, to the work in “me time” in the calendar, and remember that it is well to say no.
It’s not just about doing less, it’s about doing What restores you. Whether it is a solo walk, a conscious moment with your coffee or finally say no to the group chat that drains it, reduce your stress levels is an act of daily maintenance. And although sex can help, they can also a thousand small options that bring you back to yourself.
Navigating menopause? This is what you should know about vaginal health
Menopause is the passage rite for which no one prepares you. And although talking about hot flashes and swings of humor is common, one of the most overlooked themes is how vaginal health can also change the duration this time, especially if sex (alone or standing) is not happening regularly.
Ob/Gyn certified by Board Lucky Sekhon, MD, explained to Well+Good [and] Sangle duration. “Not exactly the” years of freedom “atmosphere we expected.
The good news? There are soft and proactive ways to support your body through thesis changes. Duration A recent conversation with Dr. Ir. Macrene Alexiades about beauty and well -being trends, emphasized that regular sexual activity, or masturbation, helps maintain the health and elasticity of vaginal lining. It is a form of self -care that we do not talk enough.
What if things feel a little less than comfortable? We are going to withdraw the myth that painful sex is something to accept. A natural and safe lubricant can make a difference. There is no Shanke to achieve additional support. His body deserves compassion, curiosity and duration of attention at each stage of life. Menopause is no exception.
It may be more difficult to turn on
It turns out that desire is not always spontaneous. It is a habit. Like many things in life (exercising, meditating, drinking water), the more regularly it relates to its sexual being, more naturally that spark tends to appear. So, if it is a leg, a time are for the last time and it is more difficult to activate, it is not alone.
Like many things, the desire for sex generally follows the rules of inertia: a person who has sex will continue to want sex, while a person who does not have sex no longer has that need. “For some, this will have the effect that it becomes more difficult to activate, even if you want,” the Carol Queen sexora, PHD, shared with Well+Good. In other words, the sexual energy of the bases is based on itself, therefore, taking a long break can sometimes make the rhythm feel a bit … stuck.
That may sound discouraging, but there is light at the end of the tunnel. A 2014 study published in Canadian magazine of human sexuality He suggests that desire plays an important role in the general quality of sex. Meaning: cultivating a feeling of lung or curiosity around sex: through fantasy, touch, flirting or simply tune in your body, it is not only important, it can make all the experience more satisfactory when do Choose participate. Sometimes, desire comes after we create the space for it.
The surprising benefits of not having sex
In a world that is equivalent to sex with well -being, success or even itself, choosing not having sex, either for a season or that indefinitely you can want to swim up river. But a dry spell is not always bad. In fact, bar of sex can come with their own unexpected gifts.
To start, move away from sexual activity can sacrifice space for clarity and self -reflection. Without physical and emotional entanglements that can sometimes come with sex, many people find it easy to tune in their intuition, process experiences or re -connect with Themelves in a deeper way. It can be a time to rediscover what you want, what illuminates you and what type of connection really yearning without external pressure or expectation.
There are also practical benefits: more time, more energy and less emotional stress (especially if tight experiences have felt complicated or unsatisfied). If you are healing a break, exploring celibacy or simply reproduces your own well -being, this time it can be an act of radical self -love.
When a dry spell could be a signal to register
There is a wide variety of reasons, all perfectly normal, we could go through a dry spell. Sometimes, however, a long -term dry spell can use a closer look.
If you have lost interest in sex and cannot explain why, consider what more could be happening under the surface. A sudden or extended fall in libido can sometimes be linked to things such as hormonal imbalances, chronic stress, depression, anxiety or even side effects of medication. If sex used to be something I enjoyed and now feels out of reach, or outside its radar, it can be time to register with a reliable medical care provider.
Consider Zielinski’s guide to boost your libido. (Wait for some surprising ideas). And consider your thoughts about when to try sexual therapy and even meditate before sex.
What if sex is simply not something you are craving right now? That’s well too. There is no universal timeline or “should” when it comes to desire. What matters most is that you feel empowered to register with yourself and get support if you need it, how you think.
This publication was updated for the last time on April 26, 2025 to include new ideas..
